What I’ve learned from transferring schools

As summer is coming to an end and I start my final year as an undergrad. I looked back at my overall college experience.

When I first started applying to schools I wanted to get away from the small town that i grew up in. There’s a local college that’s 10 minutes away from home. I didn’t want to go there because half my high school went there and I was tired of looking at the same thing. My dream school was in maryland but my parents couldn’t afford sending me away that far.

My aunt who lives in north jersey suggest I look into Kean University and she offered her spare room to me. She lives 10 minutes away from NYC and that’s what sold me. I mean the campus at Kean was nice too. But I was obsessed with visiting NYC. So I applied, got in and started in the fall 2014. Even though I was for free at my aunts house the down side was that I had to commute to school by 3 trains at the time because I didn’t have a car at the time. It was exhausting and it took an hour to get there and back home every day.

My overall experience had it’s ups and downs. I went back home for summer and I dreading going back to school. By my sophomore year there I wasn’t very happy there. I was just feeling miserable. Commuting to school had its downfalls. the train commute was long and mentally exhausting. It was hard getting involved in activities. It wasn’t easy being able to hang out with friends either because everyone commuted to school from different towns. So I started spending time in NYC by myself as a way to keep busy.

After a while I told my mom I didn’t like there and that i wanted to transfer back home to Stockton. University. She was ecstatic to have me back home. I was a little nervous because it was starting all over again. But it was also great because I still had friends who lived in the area and I could be more involved in campus.

Honesty it was the best decision I made. I still commute to school but it’s more convenient. I’m literally 10 minutes away. I made a ton of new friends. I got closer with friends that I haven’t seen in a long time. It was easier to spend time with my family. I’m able to surf more, now that I’m back home by the beach. I was so much happier coming back home.

But I’m glad I did have the chance to get away from home for 2 years. I learned a lot about myself during that time. When you start college you’re still use to doing things with friends or family. But eventually you learn that you gotta do things on your own.

  • I Learned to enjoy my own Company. I would travel around jersey city, Hoboken, and NYC by myself. It was great
  • I learned the public transportation system by myself. Coming from a small suburban town that is impressive.
  • Not everyone you meet will be your friend. You may make friends with someone and then realize you guys don’t really click.
  • If you’re not happy at the school you’re at don’t be afraid to make the decision to transfer.
  • Try to make the best of your situation in the meantime. Even though i didn’t care for school I did have a great time living in north jersey. I went to so many amazing places that I would’ve never go to if I didn’t move up there.
  • Everyone’s college experience is different so don’t compare your experience to someone else’s and feel like you’re missing out.
  • I know it’s cliche but get involved in school activities. You definitely meet a lot of people through clubs. At Stockton I took a field trip with the marketing club and got to visit the urban outfitters headquarters in Philadelphia.

Hope you guys liked this post. Hopefully any college students out there find it reliable Let me know what you think in the comments below !

Thanks again for reading !

7 thoughts on “What I’ve learned from transferring schools

  1. I LOVE this! I was in a similar boat. I originally had thought I wanted to go to university. My senior year I decided I wanted to sstart at the small community college like you explained, but my sister (who helped raise me) thought I was only doing it for a boy and refused to allow me to. She told me I was going to university. So I did. For the first year. And absolutely hated most of my time there. Sure I made a few friends. But it was nothing like I wanted. I ended up transferring back to CC and moving back home. After a year and a half of that, I then took those credits and transferred BACK to the university, but through an online program so I could stay living at home (home town, my own apartment) where I was happy for the first time in a long time. The transfer experience can he stressful, but so worth it in the end if you aren’t happy where you are.

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  2. I loved reading this post! As a student who has been to eight different schools over her 19 year lifetime, it was nice to read about someone who had a similar experience to me. Also; learning the transportation system is very impressive indeed! It took me forever to learn how the TTC works in Toronto, haha. Great read!


  3. I completely relate to this! I first started school at a community college in my city and I loved it! I was extremely happy and was getting to know people. For my second year I switched to a 4 year college and at first I hated it because it’s so far from home, but I’m starting to like it.


  4. This was a good post! Sometimes relocating can have its ups and downs but as long as you are happy with the people who love you that is all that matters. Sometimes we feel moving away to have a fresh start is not always what we expect it to be. Great post!


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